Gay activist Paddy Manning speaks against to the Irish Daily Mirror
I WAS arrested once for chatting up a big, burly member of the vice squad wasting his time chasing gay guys like me.
Every time I hear proponents of same-sex marriage telling me that they want the State to endorse and validate our relationships I think of that night.
I want to keep the State out of my relationships, and, as much as possible, out of my life.
Same-sex marriage is not some warm fluffy equality bunny, it's a bare-faced state power grab.
The State gets to entirely remake marriage, not as the man/woman/ child model we've inherited from 10,000 years of history and across all cultures but as an anything-goes irrelevant partnership agreement between adults.
Only a man and a woman have children despite every fantasy the gender-busters want us to believe.
Every child has a right to that natural life no matter how much that right bothers the children-asaccessories brigade.
Same-sex marriage asks us to ignore reality and children's rights.
Marriage will be made irrelevant because this remake says that for the first time children and parenthood has no natural place in marriage.
If there are children, the kindly, benevolent state will set your relationship with them.
If you don't want a gay marriage don't get one? Everyone gets one because, in the eyes of the State, marriage will be about adults, not about a man and a woman committing to making and raising children.
Politicians love us to believe we belong to some victim class so they can save us.
I'm a gay man, I'm not a victim and I reject this notion that traditional marriage should be drastically altered for some fantasy.
Yes, gay people need to give legal force to their relationships but for that we have civil unions, not a one size fits all marriage, cut down to suit the romantic whims of adults.
People get married for their own reasons but we have marriage because it has a meaning and does a vital job not just for individuals but for society.
Claiming that equality demands that men and women be as interchangeable as Lego blocks shows you don't understand men and women, marriage or much else.
Profound ignorance is a poor basis for massive change.
Redressing historical wrongs may be worse basis. Yes, gay people had a hard time.
The night I was arrested was brutal, terrifying and a terrible waste of Garda time but that was in long ago, in a very distant galaxy.
Ireland is a very different place for us now – pretending otherwise is to trap gay people in a damaging victim culture.
We can ignore reality all we want but the outcomes for children are not the same across all family models. Marriage of a man and a woman gives children the best chance.