By Tony Perkins, FRC
April 23rd, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
By Tony Perkins, FRC
“When a state effectively terminates the marriage of a same-sex couple married in another jurisdiction by refusing to recognize the marriage, that state unlawfully intrudes into the realm of private marital, family, and intimate relations specifically protected by the Supreme Court.” – District Court Judge Timothy S. Black
By Lord Carey
Take, for example, the way the Coalition Government has paid lip service to its importance, seeming to penalise couples rather than support them.
In their radical redefinition of marriage, the electorate was assured the Government supported gay marriage because of a belief in the importance of marriage. But in making children secondary to the civil definition of marriage, many of us have continuing doubts about the commitment of this Government to supporting families.
Let’s take the financial costs. Some economists estimate the couples’ penalty — which is the amount they lose each year in tax credits when they start to live together — can reach as much as £7,100 a year.
It is a scandal, and a great injury to children, that parents are penalised for living together.
Furthermore, an estimated 240,000 couples with children are pretending to live apart to get better benefits, according to a report by the Marriage Foundation.
The benefits system discourages couples from committing to each other, feeding the epidemic of fatherlessness. Furthermore, the incentives to live separately are bound to lead to relationship breakdown.
Yes, of course, the Government has tried to address this matter. There have been attempts to shore up support for marriage in the reintroduction of a transferable allowance for married couples. But the amount of £200 is so derisory it does not even begin to tackle the penalty against marriage. It has also become clear that Government policy towards families with a stay-at-home parent has had an element of ‘friendly fire’ about it. Take the example of the new childcare tax benefits, which favour only families where couples both work.
April 11th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
Dear marriage supporter,
If you haven't already, please respond to the Government consultation on extending civil partnerships, which closes on Thursday 17 April.
Our concerns are focused on Question 3, which asks whether civil partnerships should be extended to opposite-sex couples.
Civil partnership law does not require a lifelong commitment, but when you marry you have to intend to be together for life when you say your vows. So opening up civil partnership to heterosexual couples undermines marriage. Society will then be encouraging couples to choose the lower-commitment option. And according to the Pensions Minister, a two-tier system is also likely to cost the taxpayer at least £3bn.
Instead of undermining marriage yet again, the Government should be doing more to address serious family hardship. If two sisters live together and one of them dies, the other could have to sell the house to pay the inheritance tax. Similarly a daughter who gives up her job to care for her elderly parents could be homeless after her parent's die. These hardships – common to many families – are being ignored by the Government.
The easiest way to respond to the consultation is using the Government's online form.
From the Kenya Star
Anglican Church of Kenya Archbishop Reverend Eliud Wabukala has said the institution of marriage is under attack from both foreign and local forces.
In a statement, Rev Wabukala said, marriage is under attack from outside the country with the West and sections of the Anglican Church pressuring the ACK to treat homosexuality as a human right. Wabukala stated that “ this is to cheapen rights so that they become a demand that we tolerate individual preferences that are destructive of our moral fabric.”
He further termed that same sex marriage which recently became legal in England and the homosexuality as an attack on human identity as male and female created in the image of God. “To use the law of the land to legislate for an activity which is against the natural order, and consistently described as sinful in the Scriptures, is a very serious step which strikes at the heart of family life.
It is a repudiation of God and his Word which should make us tremble and cry out for his mercy.” Wabukala added He said within Kenya, marriage is under attack following recent amendments to the Marriage Bill by members of parliament recognizing polygamy.
April 8th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
From Coalition for Marriage
Dear marriage supporter,
You may remember that the Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act was amended in the House of Commons to include a commitment to review civil partnerships.
This review is underway and a consultation closes on Thursday 17 April (next week).
The consultation asks a number of questions about the future of civil partnerships, but our concerns are focused on Question 3. This asks whether civil partnerships should be extended to opposite-sex couples.
Allowing heterosexual couples to choose a civil partnership as an alternative to marriage would further undermine marriage. Civil partnership does not carry the commitment to life-long exclusivity that is central to marriage. Introducing a two-tier system with the option of ‘marriage-lite’ is also likely to cost the country at least £3bn.
Please take a few moments to respond to the consultation. The easiest way to respond is using the Government’s online form.
You can answer as many or as few of the questions as you like. The response form should only take a few minutes to complete.
By Andrew Symes
Saturday 29th March will go down in history as the day when same sex couples exchanged marriage vows on live TV and radio, and when a large proportion of the debate was taken up by what Christians believe. The official voice of the Church of England, and the establishment-leaning voice of evangelical and catholic orthodoxy were virtually silent on the weekend itself and in the days leading up to it. Revisionist Christian opinions were given free rein in the media, and the fiction of a church united in doctrine was exposed, as was the delusion of basing a strategy of witness to Christ on accommodating to anti-biblical cultural trends.
Here’s US marriage expert Ryan T. Anderson giving one of his sparkling clear presentations on the problem with same-sex marriage. If you want to see how you can talk comfortably to your friends and family about the importance of preserving marriage, watch this video.
It’s nearly an hour long but Ryan’s presentation takes the first 23 minutes – and it’s worth every minute of your time to listen to him.
By The Revd Paul Eddy
The Church of England’s official teaching on Christian marriage is to be found first of all in the Holy Scriptures, in passages such as Genesis 1.26-28 and Matthew 19.4-6.
Genesis 1.26 – 28: 26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. 28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
Matthew 19.4-6: 4 Jesus answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh."
This understanding of marriage, in the first book of the bible, and in Jesus’ own words recorded by St Matthew, is the basis of the Marriage Service, as it appears in the Book of Common Prayer, which is one of the “formularies” or standards of Christian teaching in the Church of England:
DEARLY beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this congregation, to join together this Man and this Woman in holy Matrimony; which is an honourable estate, instituted of God in the time of man’s innocency, signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his Church; which holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with his presence, and first miracle that he wrought, in Cana of Galilee; and is commended of Saint Paul to be honourable among all men: and therefore is not by any to be enterprised, nor taken in hand, unadvisedly, lightly, or wantonly, to satisfy men’s carnal lusts and appetites, like brute beasts that have no understanding; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God; duly considering the causes for which Matrimony was ordained.
Although today the ‘language’ seems a little strange, marriage, the BCP says, was first, ordained for the procreation of children, to be brought up in the fear and nurture of the Lord, and to the praise of his holy Name.
From The Anglican Church of Kenya
My dear brothers and sisters,
This morning I feel it is necessary to state very clearly where the Anglican Church of Kenya stands on marriage. Our position is very clear. As a Church we have no other position than the teaching of the Bible, that marriage is the lifelong union of one man with one woman for the raising of children, joyful companionship and the blessing of society and the nation.
In his teaching about marriage, Jesus reaffirms that marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman in accordance with the pattern of creation itself when he says ‘from the beginning of creation God made them male and female’ (Mark 10:6). For the health and well being of both church and society we must promote this great God given gift of marriage without compromise and ambiguity.
In Kenya today, this wonderful gift of marriage is under attack from outside the nation and within the nation.
From outside, we are being pressed by the West, and even parts of the Anglican Communion, into treating homosexuality as a human right, but this is to cheapen rights so that they become a demand that we tolerate individual preferences that are destructive of our moral fabric. The homosexual movement has become an ideology that attacks our human identity as male and female created in the image of God, and same sex marriage, which became legal yesterday in England, is therefore a profound rejection of the law of God.
To use the law of the land to legislate for an activity which is against the natural order, and consistently described as sinful in the Scriptures, is a very serious step which strikes at the heart of family life. It is a repudiation of God and his Word which should make us tremble and cry out for his mercy.
March 28th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
By Andrew Symes, CEN
The Bishops have recently reminded us that according to the Christian faith, marriage can only be between a man and a woman, even though the nation’s legal definition has changed. Many powerful and persuasive voices are now arguing that this is untenable; the Church should simply “get with the programme”, allow gay clergy as well as laity to marry, provide services of blessing for them in church, and in time remove the ban on same sex weddings in church buildings. The task is urgent for those who hold to the orthodox biblical view, to present convincing positive explanations not just for keeping marriage heterosexual, monogamous and permanent, but also for keeping singleness celibate.
In “Washed and Waiting” (Zondervan, 2010), Wesley Hill speaks from experience about homosexual desires. As a Christian he is convinced that these should not be fulfilled in partnered relationships. The often intense longing for companionship and intimacy, which the culture obsessively idolizes in the form of romance and sex , becomes fulfilled for the single person in a more profound experience of non-erotic friendships, supportive church community (what a challenge for the church to be like that!), and in appreciation of God’s desire for us. Hill does not downplay the difficulty of this, but shares how he has learned to depend daily on God for forgiveness and grace. If change of orientation does not happen, the solution cannot be found in rejecting God’s clear word, but submitting to its discipline, and in doing so learning that God takes us seriously and is training us for glory.
By Andrea Minichiello Williams
Continuous attack over five decades has left marriage as little more than a bombed-out shell, says the Chief Executive of Christian Concern, Andrea Williams, on the eve of the first legalised same-sex 'weddings' taking place in the UK.
“The label remains but the substance has gone . God’s blueprint for marriage and family has been ripped up by our society and every day we see and feel all around us, the huge emotional, economic and spiritual pain that results,” says Andrea.
She says the first same-sex 'weddings' which will take place from midnight onwards are just another step along a familiar path.
“Five decades of campaigning by the enemies of the nuclear family has obliterated marriage. The dismantling and destruction of marriage between one man and one woman for life, has produced a State marriage which is a mirage – an illusory reflection of the real thing.”
Andrea, who is a member of the General Synod of the Church of England, says the expectation of costly commitment and the recognition of the unique contribution of male and female to the upbringing of children have all gone.
“This is yet another regressive step and we see the pain of family and relational breakdown all around us.”
Of course the guidance notes issued by The Law Society on the provision of Sharia-compliant wills do not represent a change in the law of England and Wales. No one said they did, but this seems to be the principal objection to the previous "overstated" article and the substantive assertion for it being a "non-story".
This is not just a professional trade body explaining how its members may best serve the interests of its Muslim clients within the current law. This is The Law Society of England and Wales adopting and propagating Islamic law even where it conflicts with human rights and equality legislation. Of course their recognition of Sharia-compliant wills does not confer legal right: it is for the courts to determine whether such anti-women, anti-gay, anti-kuffar, anti-illegitimate inequalities, if contested, may be enforced. But the recognition by The Law Society that such discrimination may be written into a will amounts to a de facto apologia for Sharia, and that is bound to deter all manner of gay/female/apostate/illegitimate Muslims from ever contesting a will in case it should result in community "pressure" to comply with the wishes of the deceased.
But this guidance is also not a "non-story" because it shows The Law Society to be hypocritical, duplicitous and fundamentally anti-Christian.
Two years ago they revoked a booking made by Christian Concern and others for a debate on the nature of marriage. It was part of a family values coalition, the World Congress of Families, and the colloquium was entitled ‘One man. One woman. Making the case for marriage for the good of society’.
Despite having previously agreed to host this conference at their HQ in Chancery Lane, the Law Society cancelled it at short notice and explained by email that the event “is contrary to our diversity policy, espousing as it does an ethos which is opposed to same-sex marriage”.
From The Telegraph
Nigel Farage says Ukip would strip traditional Christian wedding ceremonies of their legal status and keep same sex marriage
Nigel Farage, the Ukip leader, has said that the traditional Christian wedding ceremony should be stripped of its legal status.
Mr Farage suggested that couples who want to wed in church should have to undertake two ceremonies, one recognised by the state and one a religious ceremony.
He also said he would not abolish same-sex marriage, despite having campaigned forcefully against the bill before it came into law.
His call for French-style reforms of the marriage system came after similar proposals by Simon Hughes, the Liberal Democrat justice minister.
In an interview with PinkNews Mr Farage urged gay, lesbian and trangender people to join his party.
Anthony McCarthy, education and publications manager of the Society for the Protection of Unborn Children (SPUC) speaks with LifeSiteNews.com's John-Henry Westen on standing up for real marriage as the best defense for the unborn. Sex-ed blinds young people to the "incredible enormity of abortion," he says.
See LifeSiteNews.com story here
March 14th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
From Family Education Trust
The Office for National Statistics (ONS) has confirmed that it will present figures for opposite sex and same-sex marriages and divorces separately after the Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act comes into effect in March.
In a public consultation launched in October last year, ONS asked whether it was important for the marriages and divorces of opposite sex and same-sex couples to be shown separately in some tables. It was clear from the wording of the questions that the UK’s recognised statistical institute was considering the adoption of a gender-blind approach to marriage and divorce statistics.1 Another question asked whether civil partnerships should be combined with marriage statistics to provide figures on legally recognised partnerships.
However, after receiving a large number of responses from Family Education Trust supporters and others, just five days before the close of the consultation period, ONS published a statement on its website stating that it was ‘not proposing to produce only total figures for marriages where the distinction between same sex and opposite sex couples is not available’.
The statement continued:
‘ONS do intend to publish marriage and divorce statistics in the future where figures for opposite sex and same sex couples are shown separately.’
by Matthew Holehouse, Telegraph
The traditional Christian wedding ceremony should have no legal status under a shake-up of marriage laws, the Justice Minister has said.
Couples who want to wed in Church would have to undertake two separate ceremonies in order for their marriage to be recognised by the state, under proposals suggested Simon Hughes, the Liberal Democrat justice minister.
The French-style reforms would see couples undergo one secular, state-recognised ceremony, before exchanging religious vows if they wish.
But any bid to overturn centuries of legal precedent by stripping church or synagogue weddings of their legal status is likely to be fiercely opposed by clergy as an attempt to marginalise religion.
The suggestion follows a landmark Supreme Court ruling that decreed the Church of Scientology has the right to conduct weddings because it is a legitimate “place of meeting for religious worship”. Critics say the organisation is a dangerous cult.
March 10th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
By Sarah Jane Seman, townhall.com
Marriage is a little bit terrifying.
Just think about it. It joins two individuals with their own sets of aspirations, habits, quirks, fiscal responsibilities, and families in a binding contract…‘til death do you part.
If consenting to lifelong codependence is not slightly petrifying, I don’t know what is. Except, perhaps, becoming codependent without consenting.
Welcome to the new progressivist union: marriage to the state. It’s an institution enabled by Big Government and for Big Government through federal incentives and services; where cohabitation and living alone comes with more financial perks than marriage, and a dependence on the state is an easier path than developing a real and lasting personal relationship.
[...] Collectivists seek to replace the natural dependency between two people with interdependence only on the state, Morse outlined. “They think that’s going to make people more free, and I think that’s crazy. I just don’t see how that could be!”
This ruse has been used as one of the leading arguments for feminists, who claim these sorts of policies will completely liberate women from dependence on men, according to Morse.
“What I want to say is that she is not independent. You’ve just transferred her dependency from her child’s father, who might actually care about her personally, who might actually care about the child personally, to a dependence on the government,” Morse said.
This transfer of dependency becomes an important tool in elections, Morse explained. “If the individuals are dependent on the government, they are going to continue to vote for the parties and platforms that keep the money coming, rather than anything that would really foster upward mobility,” Morse continued. “This is a trap, just basically, a poverty-centered trap.”
March 8th, 2014 Jill Posted in Marriage Comments Off
By Bethany Monk, CitizenLink
Gov. Steve Beshear on Tuesday said Kentucky will hire outside attorneys to defend the state marriage amendment, which is under attack in the federal court system. A judge issued an order late last month saying officials must recognize same-sex marriages performed outside the state.
The governor’s announcement comes just one day after Attorney General Jack Conway said he would no longer defend the amendment. Approved by voters in 2004, it defines marriage as a union between one man and one woman.
“I understand and respect the deep and strong emotions and sincere beliefs of Kentuckians on both sides of this issue,” he said, “but all Kentuckians deserve an orderly process that will bring certainty and finality to this important matter.”
U.S. District Judge John G. Heyburn ruled on Feb. 12 that the marriage amendment treated “gay and lesbian persons differently in a way that demeans them.” The order he issued on Feb. 28 makes this earlier ruling official.
Ignoring common protocol, Heyburn did not put his decision on hold pending an appeal of the case.
Focus on the Family Judicial Analyst Bruce Hausknecht said Heyburn created “a mess.”
“If some marriages are ‘recognized’ and then a ‘stay’ is issued,” he said, “everyone will sit around and try to figure out what that means for the marriages that were recognized and granted benefits before the stay.”
by Steve Doughty, Mailonline
Young married men have almost disappeared in England and Wales, figures revealed yesterday.
There are now fewer than 58,000 married men under 25, official figures show.
The proportion of men who marry young has collapsed to 1.7 per cent, marking a profound change in family life since the 1950s.
About 135,000 young women marry annually, figures from the 2011 census, just released by the Office for National Statistics, reveal.
Most of them have found men who have reached their late twenties or older.
In the 1950s, three-quarters of women and half of all men were married by their mid-twenties.
These days one in three men in their twenties is still with their parents and the average age at which a young person leaves their childhood home is 26.